9 STEPS TO RAISE A HAPPY KID THAT EVERY MOM SHOULD FOLLOW

Parenting is one of the most fulfilling as well as the toughest job in the world. As a mother, we all have a huge responsibility to raise our happy kid into a successful adult. "There's no way to be a perfect mother and million ways to be a good one". Below are some of the proven effective parenting steps can help you guide in the right direction.

1. Make Time for Your Kids:

While we’re physically present with our kids, we’re not always fully present in mind, body, and soul. Quality time with parents is essential for raising well-rounded children if they didn't get some quality time and attention from us, they seek that attention in one or the other way through clinging, whining, interrupting, etc. This is not because they are trying to be wrong, but instead, they are seeking attention. Attention and power are the two important things children always thrive for. we can overcome this by spending our quality time with them it does not mean spending hours, you just need to spend 15-20 min undivided attention, maybe you are giving even more time but the trick is to let them know that you spend committed time with them and you make sure you will be consistent with it every day.

To be simple

1 #. Start with the activity whatever your kid chooses, it may be playing with blocks, pretend play, dancing together any crazy thing for that matter it has to be kid chosen (giving power to them).

2 #. Avoid any distractions like the TV, mobile, your housework, your child is the center of the universe for this committed time. You have to be fully present (Attention).

3 #. Mention that "I enjoyed the play with you and can't wait to play again tomorrow"doing this makes him assure that it's not for only today (Assuring that you will play again).

For older kids, we can "Create a "special night" each week to be together and let your kids help decide how to spend the time. Look for other ways to connect — put a note or something special in your kid's lunchbox, Baking together, etc... Don't feel guilty if you're a working parent. It is the many little things you do — little conversations before sleep, date with mama, window shopping can be enough — that kids will remember.

2. Boosting Your Child's Self-Esteem:

Children see themselves through their parent's eyes and actions. your voice, words, your every expression as a parent affect their developing self-esteem more than anything else. How parents speak and act with them positively or negatively affects their child’s self-esteem.

we need to watch our words while talking with them as well as while talking about them with others when they are hearing.

simple steps to follow:

1#. praising accomplishments, however small, will make them feel proud; and see the good things about them

2#. Letting kids do things independently will make them feel capable and strong.

3#. Let your kids know that everyone makes mistakes and that you still love them, even when you don't love their behavior, will make them feel loved and accepted.

By contrast, downgrading comments or comparing a child with another will make kids feel worthless. Avoid making comments like "What a stupid thing to do!" or "look at him how good he is doing and you?" these cause damage just as physical abuse. Choose your words carefully and be compassionate. Ensure you do not criticize them too much. Instead, compliment them more often to increase their self-esteem.

3. Encourage good behavior and their"efforts" every day:

Imagine if someone appreciated your work, your talent, how you feel?... you will feel not only happy but also confident, imagine how confident the little kid feels when they being appreciated by the most trusted person in their world(it's us moms). The more effective approach is not just saying a good job or nice work etc... praise their efforts.

1#. For instance, kids doing something right: "You made your bed without being asked — that's terrific!" or

2#. I was watching you are building your long tower ." you were very patient". These statements will do more to encourage good behavior over the long run than repeated scoldings.

Make a point of finding something to praise every day. Be generous with rewards — your love, hugs, and compliments can work wonders and are often reward enough. Soon you will see the behavior change you would like to see.

4.Communicating and listening to kids:

One of the most effective parenting skills you can learn is that of listening to your children. Listening to your children is the best way to create a caring relationship in which they see you as their support and which they can always return when they need support. Learning these positive communication skills will benefit your child all their life. Children begin to form ideas and beliefs about themselves based on how their parents communicate with them. Plus, having open communication helps your child be able to talk to you when challenging situations occur in their lives.

Best communicating practices are:

1#. Be non-judgmental and accepting of what is on their minds, they will feel more comfortable opening up to you and will have a trustworthy place where they can explore their reactions and feelings.

2#. stop communicating or trying to help if they are not interested to listen at that moment,u can always say"I will be always there for you if you need any help.

5.Set Limits and Be Consistent With Your Discipline

Discipline is necessary for every household. The goal of discipline is to help kids learn what is acceptable behavior and what is not and learn self-control.

The key is to be consistent, follow through once you set the rules and limits, show respect and remain calm(don't react angrily it makes the situation more worst).

Steps to have a system in place:

1#. One warning, followed by consequences related to it:

For example: If it for screen time you need to set time before even they start and let them know clearly how much time they are going to watch like 30 min or 2 episodes and the consequence if they still cry for more the consequence should be related like no screen time tomorrow.

2#. Give choices: When you let your kid decide whether she wants to wear her jacket or her socks first, you’re enabling decision-making. If these decisions go well, she will feel capable and this will build her confidence to take bigger decisions in the future.

A common mistake parents make is a failure to follow consistency. Being consistent teaches what you expect.

6.Be a Good Role Model:

Kids learn a lot about how to act by watching their parents. Before you blow your top in front of your child, think about this: Is that how you want your child to behave when angry? Be aware that you're constantly being watched by your kids. Studies have shown that children who hit usually have a role model for aggression at home.

Model the traits you wish to see in your kids: respect, friendliness, honesty, kindness, tolerance. Exhibit unselfish behavior. Do things for other people without expecting a reward. Express thanks and offer compliments.

7.Learn how to be a"yes" parenting:

I am not just saying "yes" to everything that the kids ask for, it's like saying no starting with a YES. This is an amazing practice which always is a win-win situation. This is just re-framing some of our Nos. Becoming a YES Parent is not always easy or convenient, but once you’re intentional about it and you will see the benefits.

Here’s how:

#1.“Yes, when –” develops responsibility

ex: Yes, you can play with another toy when you pack up the last toy we got out.

#2."Yes, when -" teaches prioritizing

ex: If the child asks for a treat when it is time for a meal, you can say "yes of course treats are delicious, shall we have it together after our meal.

#3.“Yes, if –” promotes good decision-making

ex: Yes, you can go out to play if you think you can be home on time.

But use your power to say"no" is okay when you need to use it, as long as you say yes as well.

8.Show That Your Love Is Unconditional:

Your responsibility as a parent is to guide and correct your children whenever they do something wrong. However, how you correct and guide your kids matters a lot. In case you are confronting your child blaming them every time, finding faults, or even criticizing them. Doing that can cause low self-esteem. Ensure they know that you love them unconditionally, even if you are correcting and guiding them. Make sure they know that although you want and expect better next time, your love is there no matter what.

Here are some simple ways:

#1. say"I love you" frequently, they love to hear those words.

#2." verbally"Look for opportunities to say encouraging words like, “I’m glad you are my child,” or “I know you’ll make the right decision,” help build a child’s confidence and nurture your relationship.

#3." physically" by patting back, hugging, kissing.

#4."Eye-contact"Giving your eyes” to your child when he or she is talking tells them that you care about what they are saying, and about them.

9.Know Your Own Needs and Limitations as a Parent:

Face it — we are imperfect parents. we have strengths and weaknesses. Recognizing our abilities —Try to have realistic expectations for ourselves, our spouse, and our kids. we don't have to have all the answers — be forgiving of ourselves.

And let's try to make parenting a manageable job. Focus on the areas that need the most attention rather than trying to do everything all at once. Admit it when you're burned out. Take time out from parenting to do things that will make you happy as a person.

Focusing on your needs does not make you selfish. It simply means you care about your own well-being, which is another important value to model for your children.

Every parent loves to see their children grow into respected people in society. The above information will help you raise your kids in the best way possible. It will be so satisfying and feeling achieved to have a happy family if you raise them right. All the best mommies!!!.